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Saturday, October 29, 2011
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Judgement leading to Fear and Diffidence
It is quite indecisive by the way people see things. There is a fine line between wanting to care, or just getting annoyed for the heck of it.
Honestly we know we can't please everyone, since everyone is different. But we can't please anyone either. Frankly it's impossible seeing that almost everyone has their own judgemental value. Alas, we wanted to feel the acceptance, even if it's by blood and sweat, we would think it's worth it.
Well no, it's not. So far what I've learned is that the only thing we can do is be at our best and take good care of ourselves. So why please?
Yes it's rhetorical. But indeed a question we/I often wonder about. Everyone is judgemental no doubt. But the level of scrutiny and judgemental value varies depending on how well the person interprets certains things/ways.
In the 21st century, stereotypes and fixed minds are quite commonly thought of. And by saying that, it can and will lead to unnecessary judgements and possibly surfacing a lot of anger.
We face it in many ways, ironically it matters not whether we trouble someone, but whether he/she wants to make it his/her issue, or not.
The human mind can only take so much as to consider various feelings and situations within a few seconds, thus, the act of seeing things in a distorted manner.
Felony and accusations are merely the major effects from such mindsets. Confrontation, anger and disgust are a whole different story.
Few...-like me- tend to overthink, overdo, over--something, due to having eyes watching your every move and being.
Hard and excrutiating at times...definitely.
But....to love another, truthfully,unconditionally, is to willingly love and accept yourself first by the grace of God, and to disperse His love to another; also by going against a culture of expectations for oneself for the reason to feel loved by another.
This leads to the fact that we become slaves to love for the lack of capability of loving oneself, thus becoming excessively dependent of needing to be fed by another being's love and acceptance.
Again it all comes down to being accepted and to feel what we yearn to feel. And learning to jump over that is never smooth sailing.
Thorns and countless rocks and shattered glass are just some of the obstacles that one faces when going through emotions not usually felt by oneself, moreover if it becomes something usual to ones life.
It leads fo fear, as a saying goes, "Why are most lives likely headed to the dumps? Because of Fear. We are afraid to come out of our comfort zone to experience things that are already pre-judged by ourselves before even having to face them. All we see is dirt, all we KNOW is dirt. And although it's dirt, at least its comfortable. "
That's life, that's the mind.
